So, what story do you have about the most effeminate anatomically male worship leader you’ve ever personally witnessed?
What did Driscoll mean by effeminate? He provides a definition.
1: having feminine qualities untypical of a man: not manly in appearance or manner 2″ marked by unbecoming delicacy or overrefinement.
So what in the world was his motivation for this discussion? He gave this for clarity in the discussion.
It’s a real issue. Most churches do not have nearly as many men as women. Women tend to feel more comfortable in a feminine environment than men do in a feminine environment. Many churches that attract women repel men. Sometimes it has a lot to do with the guy up front leading the music. This comes out of a recent conversation with a blue collar non-Christian who wanted to learn the Bible but felt very uncomfortable with the guy on the mic leading worship so he walked out.
Besides the hundreds of comments to the original question (which has since been taken off his page) many bloggers have taken to their pages to express their opinion. Here are a few I appreciated:
- Dianna Anderson: Dear Mr. Driscoll on the Are Women Human? blog by Grace
- Mark Driscoll is a bully. Stand up to him by Rachel Held Evans
- Mano-a-Mano: A Letter to Mark Driscoll by Tyler Clark
I think Grace, Rachel and Tyler give Mark the tag team butt kicking he deserves (though I do hope his elders follow up with more). What I’d like to add to the conversation is Mark’s motivation to make his church meeting attractive. It is a trap! When we play dress up with our faith and try to present it in such a way that is more about presentation than it is about proclamation, then we are masquerading the true Kingdom.
In terms of being a “Body” with are to be clothed with Christ. This doesn’t mean either tailored white robes or masculine 501 Levis with the button up fly. In fact it says in that same paragraph (in the Letter Paul wrote to the Galatians) that being in Christ isn’t dependent upon cultural or religious backgrounds (neither Jew nor Gentile), affluence or position (neither slave nor free), or gender differences (nor male and female). If we belong to Christ, then we are family. Period. There are no red-headed step children in the Kingdom (no offence meant to the Gingers out there).
When Jesus walked our streets he didn’t pursue people based on popularity. He didn’t have the most prominent followers or ones that would attract the well-to-do crowd. Some of his front people were actually very unpopular—the tax collector was hated by the Jews, while the zealot was hated by the Romans.
What attracted people to Jesus wasn’t his appearance – it was what he taught and how he lived. It was the mercy he showed and the people he touched. It was his listening ear to his Father and the miraculous things that happened because of his obedience.
What attracts people to us, at least how it is supposed to work, is by the way we care for each other – the young the old, the rich the poor, the articulate and the stutterer, the bright and the simple. The truth is we are all so broken, weak, and dysfunctional that if we are loving people at their core, not their external expressions, masks and classifications, then the rest of the broken world will feel safe to come be loved as well.
Do you ever feel tempted to dress up church? How is it working for you?