Refilling the Picture Frames

16 Oct, 2011

Well, did he make you cry, make you break down,
Shatter your illusions of love
And is it over now, do you know how
Pick up the pieces and go home
- Fleetwood Mac

A childhood friend of mine went through a divorce last year. I’m watching her rebuild her life dealing with the pain as it presents itself.

I was visiting with her not that long ago and she reminded me that I was the photographer at her wedding. She jokingly asked me if I wanted the pictures back.

She then got real with me and told me that she had trouble looking at her past family photos. They were triggers and reminders of what was broken, lousy and lost.

I guess that conversation got her thinking. Last week she contacted me again. She asked if we could set a date to go out on a photo shoot with her and her daughters to fill up the now empty frames with the pictures of her family of three.

This one is my favorite. It shows a strong mom close together with her delightful daughters – three really beautiful women who are moving past the pain and living in the joy still to be found in their family along their journey.

How can you replace your past images of pain with new moments of joy?

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  1. Richard says:

    Simply wonderful.

  2. David Rupert says:

    Well. what I have done is to thank God for the wonderful years I had with her. I give thanks. And although it was her choice to leave against my wishes and the counsel of trusted people, she is still gone. Yes, it hurts. Painfully so. But with the thanks for the years, I couple that prayers for her heart, her safety and her future. A blessing.

    The thankfulness along with the blessing has helped my pain and helped preserve the photographs.

  3. I think it's great to replace the old photos with current ones.

    As an adult child of divorce those photos of my parents were painful to see, however, with time, I'm actually glad I have them. They are a reality of my past. While it was too hard to see them at first, they became a sort of memorial to me…of both the good and the bad, and really God's provision in and through all of it.

    BTW…this photo was a joy to behold. Blessings to her and her daughters. Great job, Chad.

  4. Nicole Crockett says:

    Well I think its simply divine! This picture of me and my 2 wonderful daughters speaks volumes to me. They are always by my side and I will always hold them tight and support them no matter what. Thank You for your lifetime of friendship :)

  5. M.A. says:

    Chad, I purchased a nice bottle of Merlot, put on a mellow CD and sorted all the photos by category. The photos of my exhusband by himself or with our son went in a pile for my son to have. The rest of the photos went in a box that lived in a dusty basement for years. I found them years later and it was still hard to look at. I tried to focus on the positive – but it was still difficult. I quietly by myself went outside and had a pow-wow with God. I prayed and then solemnly burnt a big pile of photos with my heart filled with forgiveness. I felt better afterward. Still do feel good about it. Here's to peaceful hearts and new memories in the making.

  6. zenichka says:

    Although I haven't experienced divorce, there were deaths, and the advice that I got the most was "Make new memories." It's scary at first – because it's almost as if you decide not to remember the good times of the "previous life" – yet once you start, it's a rewarding experience. New memories are useful.

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